I agree that the process of dying is more scary than the idea of being dead. For me, I'm not so much scared of the pain of death, but rather the emotional process of letting go of life. Even still, I hope that I have a slow death so I have time to process it all. Hmm, maybe the scariest part for me is the idea that I might miss out on experiencing my own ending, whether that's because I die in my sleep, on the operating table, or in a very sudden accident. Like you said, I do think the worst part of that is missing loved ones and knowing they'll miss me.
Thanks for your thoughts, and the well wishes. :)